If you are reading this and thinking `IF ONLY` I could...then can I ask, what is stopping you?
Work, Children, Household Chores, Shopping, Parents, the list is endless as to the priorities in our busy lives but let`s think about it....who will keep all these balls juggling in the air, if we go down?
There is a small word that a lot of us are afraid to use and that two letter word is NO!
We feel as if we are letting people down, if we refuse an invitation or say we cannot help out, we feel guilty but we cannot give our best to others, if our fuel tanks are on empty.
Maybe start with little bite size chunks of the day make some time for yourself, take a long bath, go for a walk, exercise, nap or just something that makes your heart sing! x
You will start to feel good about yourself and in turn have more energy and motivation.
In reality, we can`t feel good about ourselves when we are in turn giving our all to others.
Building a good relationship with yourself can only be a good thing and in turn will bring more fulfilling relationships with those you love.
When we learn to love and respect ourselves you will see the relationship you have with yourself and others change. It may change the way you look at those in your circle of friends, this can be no bad thing, de clutter, be selective over those you want to share your space with...if you have those who are draining your energy instead of making you feel buoyant, then maybe it`s time to move on.
When we are prepared to put the work into nurturing ourselves, in turn we will inevitably see a shift in what the Universe brings us in return...go on, have a go, do it, you deserve it! x
The Great Outdoors
What better way to re connect with yourself than the Great Outdoors....A gift from Mother Nature, which is free....NO CHARGE!
In yesteryear we used to embrace the outdoor life but as technology and longer hours of work prevail, we are all being governed by the screen, whether that is the TV, mobile, laptop, I Pad, electronic gadgets, we are forgetting that the beauty of nature and the countryside is natures prescription to Anxiety and Depression.
You cannot help but embrace the Great Outdoors when you are presented with its gifts...Mother Nature brings us many gifts and the changing of the seasons is just one of them.
Our senses revel in the outdoor life, enabling us to switch off from the stresses of modern life .
We are now in the midst of Autumn, where the leaves are falling and the Autumnal shades bring colour to what can sometimes be grey days.
Winter is just around the corner and when it bites us on the bum, it allows us to hibernate, light the fire, take stock of our live, rest and sleep.
When Spring bursts into bloom it brings with it New Beginnings... new growth and colour once again returning after the darker, shorter nights. A time to prepare the soil, for new growth... just to see the new shoots appear, can bring a smile!
Summer gifts us with longer days of light and Sun, it renews our Strength and life looks bright and colourful. The sun against our faces gives a sense of well being and gives us a shot of well needed Vitamin D.
Mother Nature, prescribes what is needed for each and everyone of us, she is always there with a helping hand, the trees that shelter us from the winds, the sky that holds The Stars, Moon and The Sun. Plants that adorn our gardens with colour and hope. The countryside that stretches for miles with its hidden treasures. The tides of the Sea that ebb and flow, all we have to do is embrace each of the gifts she bestows upon us...Free of charge!
In challenging times it can be difficult to even think about setting foot outside the door but if you can just open a window or sit on the step and Breathe....it`s a step in the right direction, I Promise you!
A lack of sleep is like a long lost friend, not forgotten but sometimes difficult to connect with.
We often hear people talking about sleep and most often, the lack of it.
That time of night when we lay our heads on our warm pillows should be a time of rejoice and a time we look forward to but for many it is the complete polar opposite, wracked with unwanted thoughts and the why`s and wherefore`s of life, it can sometimes be a time we dread.
Sleep is such a precious thing to us all and deprived of it, the world does not look such a rosy place to exist in, as with lack of sleep, comes a lack of participation in life itself.
It is a growing concern for many but I learnt that the more I worried about the lack of sleep I was getting, the longer I would lie there waiting for the next lot of sheep to arrive...#counting sheep.
I used to lie there convinced I was the only one in the world awake but of course this was not the case, there are those who are also lying there counting copious amounts of furry four legged animals too, those who are working night shifts, people in other time zones, all going about their daily routine but awake.
Unexplained disturbed sleep patterns are a struggle but once we give them no power, we can find ourselves drifting back into the land of nod.
Sleep and disruptive hormones are not or cannot always be 'best friends'.
Ohh to have an On and Off button like the bedside lamp, wouldn`t sleep be oooh sooo easy but as it`s not, we have to find ways to cope with it.
For me when I had my 'breakdown' I dreaded bedtime, as although it was all I wanted to do but couldn`t, I found ways to ease the stress of it.
I would take some relaxing music to bed, a magazine with an article that I had been longing to read, a small flask of tea, some plain biscuits (no I wasn`t preparing for an arctic expedition ) I was preparing for a night of haphazard sleep and then when I woke instead of panicking about it, I would turn the dim light on and get cracking on whatever I felt I needed. If I had something I was
looking forward to doing ( should I wake) it very often led to a good night's sleep, without the need of sheep jumping fences.
I learnt to turn the dread into something that I was looking forward too, should I wake or in some cases have trouble dropping off.
Some people can`t get off to sleep, some drop off easily, only to wake for no apparent reason at some unearthly hour and there are some that actually can sleep for England and don`t want to but in any of these instances, Sleep patterns are definitely disruptive when our hormones are 'out to lunch'.
We are given copious amounts of advice, warm bath before bed, warm milk, no caffeine, keep the bedroom cool, all good solid advice but here is the thing, we are all unique and what works for one doesn`t necessarily work for another, so what I found empowering for me, was to find my own way of dealing with it....tap into that wonderful Intuition we all have and listen and to yourself, you are a wonderful and unique person , with your own built in computer to help and guide you through life...Sleep tight and don`t let the bed bugs bite x
Finding something that feeds your soul, is just as important as the food we eat.
To nourish our inner being can bring about peace and tranquillity in our lives.
When you have hit rock bottom and struggle to get out of bed and can only divide your day into bite size pieces, to manage your day, the last thing we want to do, is dedicate even more time to something else.
For any of us who have struggled with Mental Health equilibrium, life can be challenging but if we can just start with 5 mins a day of something, that makes your heart sing...it can bring huge benefits to our mental chatter.
For me it was Gardening, I have loved the smell of the earth and the feel of plants since my Dad taught me how to garden many years ago. There is something very grounding about digging the ground and weeding. It was for me, as if I was de cluttering, not only the garden but my mind too. With every weed I pulled it was as if I was preparing the ground for new shoots, not only in the garden but in my mind too...clearing away all the negative thoughts to enable new growth.
For those who may find that too daunting, start small, find a packet of seeds of a flower that you love and plant them, nurture, water and feed and watch them grow.
When they are big enough to transplant to the garden, you will see them blossom and bring colour and a sense of achievement into your life.....#lovegardening #feedyoursoul
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The Hut in the Field is a therapeutic and fun space to hang out with people across the generations. It is a place where you can come to sit in a peaceful setting if life gets a bit too much, sit and chat with a cup of tea or get involved in our therapeutic activities. Come and create a sensory garden, a pond or orchard or make tables and stools or design beautiful craft work to hang on the walls.
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